How to Stop Being a Narcissist: Real and Proven Strategies to Change Narcissistic / Manipulative Behavior and Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships

This book was hard to read at times—not because it's poorly written, but because it held up a mirror I wasn’t ready to face. The author doesn’t sugarcoat narcissistic tendencies but also doesn’t shame you. It’s the first time I’ve seen something that offers hope and structure. I’ve started applying some of the strategies, and for the first time in years, my girlfriend told me I seemed more emotionally present.

This book has been more helpful than you could ever know! I’m deeply appreciative of Erik‘s work and what he has to say. Thank you!

This book is full of tools and techniques to use to better yourself. It’s a book that most of the world could stand to read because the issues it touches on aren’t just things only narcissistic people deal with. The everyday person struggles with defensiveness for example and this book highlights ways to combat it to form healthy habits.

I’ve read plenty of books on narcissism, but most are aimed at people dealing with narcissists, not those trying to change. This one finally spoke to me directly. The exercises are clear and don’t require a psychology degree to understand. I knocked off one star because some sections repeat themselves a bit, but overall, it’s incredibly useful.

I ordered this book because both of my parents are narcissists. I thought maybe I could read this book first, , highlight some things, and send it to them in an effort to show them that I don’t deserve the treatment they give me. I’ve tried talking to them before about their behavior, but they act like I’m making everything up. Anyway, this book has a lot of good information in it and really confirms the things that I’ve been thinking about my family for quite some time. My only complaint is that on the quiz Numbers 8,9 and 10 are all the same questions and answers. So now I don’t know if I can give them the book because then they would just complain about that. Because , well, you know how narcissists are! I’m pretty sure it’s just a typo, so I’m still gonna give it five stars ! Can’t wait to read more of you books in the future! Thank you!

This book helped me put a word to many of the manipulative strategies that I employ while engaging with other people. I'll use this information to forge healthier relationships with my loved ones, leading me out of narcissistic behavioral patterns.P.S. - This book is informative for everyone, and helpful for most. Many of us use these under-handed strategies as they have worked for us in the past, even if we aren't that narcissistic, and especially if we have had to navigate any kind of prolonged interaction with a narcissistic individual or individuals.

This book came in handy in my time if need. This is probably the best book for anyone wanting to make a change in their lifestyle. I recommend this book to everyone want to change it has helped so many.

This book appears to be a collection of maxims from an author who doesn’t have any credentials or credibility. I blame myself for buying based on the review rating overall and desperately trying to address a relationship in my life.Here’s a list of odd maxims from the book, none of which have any citation, sourcing or science backed research:1. “And, because most people whom narcissists have harmed are nearly overly sensitive, they’re afraid of harming others.”What? Seriously! Read that to someone who has been the victim or survivor of a narcissistic person.2. “Genetic: Twin studies have repeatedly demonstrated that genes significantly impact how empathy develops, accounting for one-third and one-half of the differences between children.”Ok. What source or study asserts this?3. “My first piece of advice is to quit putting others down. You may say that you try hard, but that’s not in your control. I would answer that you could at least aim for 75% if you can’t hit 100%.”What?! In chapter 8 of the book the author offers their “first piece of advice!” This along with the statement itself is just odd.If you’re looking for book that more insightful into narcissism look at Wendy Behary’s “disarming narcissism” which is targeted toward partners of narcissitcs and do some YouTube searches on Peter Young, Wendy Behary and Schema Therapy which has proven to be very healing for those with narcissistic tendencies. Prepare to take lots of notes and take your time going through the learnings.