The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners Paperback – December 1, 1998

Since I was raised to be a sweet, Southern Belle type, domination had never crossed my mind! Recently, a very close "friend with benefits" shared with me that he was interested in trying some "light" domination. Having no clue where to go for information, I did a search on Amazon...and this book is the one I chose.I am very pleased with this book. It is a no-nonsense, but very thoughtful introduction to female domination, and as a complete novice who only wants to "dip my toe in the pool", it is just what I needed!!It emphasizes safety, communication, and playfulness. While these simple things may not be something that a seasoned femdom is looking for, it's a great "soft" intro for those of us who are merely curious and still tentative.The book also give many resources for those who want to learn more and progress to higher levels in this area of intimacy. Although, I am unsure if I will go any further, the information is there if needed. So, again, I am very pleased with this choice for beginning my journey (however short or long) into being a dominant woman!

found out about this through my femdom research. great read. short and concise. definitely worth purchasing if you're new to femdom and have more questions than mentors.

Good for a quick read for a beginner with some good topics and ideas.

Okay, you are relatively certain you want to experiment with being a "femdom." You have a willing, if hesitant partner. You have your toys. You have "a head full of fantasies...and no idea of what to do next or how to do it." This is your lucky day and this book is your primer on exactly what (one-step-at-a-time) you need to do to turn you fantasies into reality. This is an introductory guidebook to enjoying safe, consensual, loving kink. It's not a study of the deeper psychology or reasons behind fetishes and kinky behavior or desires. It's a step-by-step guide to having mutual fun experimenting with a willing partner. It's obvious the author knows what she is writing about. Her advice is right to the point, practical and worth knowing before the reader attempts any S&M or S&D role-playing. It is above all practical advice such as how to turn everyday household items like wooden clothespins into kinky toys and how to use them safely. The author's advice makes such incredibly common sense, that it's almost impossible to not have a happy first couple of adventures even if it turns out that being a dominatrix, or a submissive to one, isn't really your cup of tea. It enables you to safely explore the subject in order to find out for yourself. For many people, playing with sensation including pain and sensory deprivation can cause amazing sexual arousal and result in hitherto un-experienced sexual satisfaction for both partners in the session. The advice includes lots of other realities such as the following: "very few mistresses look like the blond goddesses in the glossy magazines...You are not going to find a partner like one of those--I promise;" "Consider improving your own packaging;" Don't mix alcohol or drugs and SM; "Sexual domination is not a substitute for therapy...or an appropriate venue in which to act out genuine dislike. Play sexual domination games (only) with people you like and care about." The book also provides information on "going further" in learning more about becoming, or playing the part of a "Sexually Dominant Woman" as well as practical advice on how to safely find new partners. As the title says, "this is a workbook for nervous beginners," but it's an excellent one and each of its 83 pages contains valuable information and insights. Some loving couples might even want to read this short, easy-to-read text together and discuss it at length before they try acting out any the suggestions contained therein. As in most relationships, communication is a very important part of successful S&M and role-playing. The communication comes BEFORE, DURING and AFTER the actual game playing!

I bought this for my girl and soon after she went berserk.

I was severely disappointed in this book. I have no experience in the subject, but have read one other book. I found NOTHING new in this book. If you have read anything on sexual dominance at all, skip this book. If you or your significant other are completely new to the subject (as in have never heard of it) then this book MIGHT have some value to you. Otherwise, choose something else to read.In my opinion, a beginner would want an answer to the question of "why" her partner wants to play in this way. There is nothing of substance to answer that question. Honestly, after reading one book on the subject, I could have written this book. And that is not me bragging--I'm saying that this book is that simplistic.This was wasted money, in my opinion.

Felt very natural. Very reassuring to the aspiring dominant female in me:) At the end she compares finishing the book to graduating the “Kindergarten” of dominant play, glad I’m on my way!

The book is fine but nothing really special. I guess it'd be ok if you've never heard of Dominance before, but it's really low grade info that you can get from googling around. Not worth the money IMO, find free info on the net (there's a LOT of it on forums!) before wasting your money on this fluff. But it if you have the money to spend of mild entertainment or information geared towards people that aren't that smart.

Irriverente and original, nothing too practical but interesting and a good enter in the BDSM world. I would advise this to anyone curious

Great for someone new to the fettish scene but I found it very basic.

very interesting book. it gives very good detailed information about every little aspect of dominance in sexual acts. I found some of the suggestions funny, but i would recommend it

Very simple book. If you've not slapped or tweaked anything in your life then maybe it's for you. If not only as a calling card to get your partner upto speed with your intentions. Good ABC to put your sexlife into a more interesting slant if you feel something might be lacking and you want to add some hot sauce. Enjoy.

well written, excellent introduction into the BDSM world.I would absolutely recommend to those who have already had experiences with this.