Men Don't Love Women Like You!: The Brutal Truth About Dating, Relationships, and How to Go from Placeholder to Game Changer Paperback – December 4, 2015

If I had to boil this book down to one great take-away (for me at least), it's that women are told to give men the power in pursuing women. If the woman pursues, it sets up a bad dynamic-- after all, that could mean HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and just using you. When we give men this "power" to pursue us, it leaves us impotent in the process. We begin to doubt our actions (because it's easier than doubting our attractiveness). We lament, "Oh, I must have done this wrong, or I must have done that wrong." When you shovel the path for them, there's no more excuses to be made, but you are naked in the face of rejection. This is something women fear in the game of sex/love because society places our entire value on our attractiveness to men. But I'll tell you, once you start REALLY telling men you are interested (not just giving them the signal it's OK to pursue you)....it legitimately opens up a new world. One where you can objectively evaluate men on their real interest in you (not your reaction to the situation). After all, you've done the work for them. There's NO MORE EXCUSES for their half-interest. Making yourself vulnerable to rejection is pretty life-altering because you don't waste your time wondering any more. Once you've got that power, men just epically fail before your eyes whereas before you'd be saying "Well, maybe if I'd done this differently." Now, it's as clear as day he gets blocked or he's dismissed.I have read a lot of dating books wondering what is wrong with me. I no longer have to follow "rules" for dating nor do I have to "wait" for men. I can finally be myself...or at least the version of myself I think is sexiest. As an aggressive woman, I've always struggled with these issues...after all, I get what I want in every aspect of my life, why should men be any different? Certainly this book was reassuring for me as I was a born Spartan and have never been a Typical Tina, but I was still playing my hand wrong. While I can't say my love life has improved per se, my ATTITUDE regarding my love life has changed. I am definitely empowered.I immediately discard men who do not meet my standards for how I want to be pursued. If I'm not interested in a relationship with them, but I want to seduce them, I do. I don't try and make a sow's ear into a silk purse (lord knows I've tried). In addition, I'm definitely getting a much higher quality of men now that I'm in charge. If I'm going to tell a man I want him to pursue me, he's gonna have to be a dime. I no longer waste my time waiting for the mouth-breather across the bar to win the bet with his friends he'll come talk to me, get excited when he (someone, anyone) finally DOES HAVE THE NADS and then pity-date him into an eventual engagement. Also, while I can't say I exactly relate to the women he uses in his examples (they are VERY brazen where I prefer to be a little more seductive), his take on men the type of man I hope to land is pretty spot on.My only other criticism is pretty explainable due to the nature of selling books. Sorry, but this book is not for "nice" women or "basic" women. Unlike the author, I don't believe every woman is born a Spartan or has the capabilities he suggests (just like not everyone is going to be an Olympic athlete or neuroscientist). I believe this book is best suited for women who are already Spartans...pretty self-aware, dimensional and evolved, but yet still continue to settle because somehow their lack of shortcomings is a shortcoming in and of itself.

I’m a Gen-X man who re-entered the dating market three years ago after a divorce. I read this book to get a better feel for the advice given to women around dating and to also scout the opposite sex’s strategies, emotions and steigggles because clearly I was missing something.To date the best book on dating for men I’ve dread thus far is “How to be a 3% Man” by Corey Wayne. This book is the equivalent book for women. He forged a path between gently pandering to women to get their confidence up and also being crudely crass in his language and humor to get them to let go of self-limiting beliefs, the tropes of modern dating and the internal doubts and self-limiting beliefs we all (yes, men too!) have. Bar none, he addresses all of the ways for women to conquer the dating world despite its difficulties and gives them tangible, empathetic, empowering tactics and strategies to win on their own terms but to not do so based on what the world says you should want but on an honest assessment of what your inner self truly needs, desires and has been longing for unconsciously.Five start!!! I just bought a physical copy of the book for my sister, and got a kindle version to reread over and over again. His advice is geared for women but could easily be used by men. Don’t let the title nor the fact that he is a man fool you… he clearly loves women, wants them to succeed in life and dating… by getting out of their own way and going for what they want in ways that will really open your eyes to how we’ve been passengers in life instead of driving ourselves to where we want to go.

This book truly changed my love life in a way that no other book, seminar or workshop has. I was single for over a decade. About 3 months after reading this book, multiple guys were wanting to get serious with me and about 10 months after, I met a wonderful guy, and we're in a healthy, loving long-term relationship. Part of why I was single for so long was me and my issues (such as trust, abandonment, fear of divorce, daddy issues, etc). Part of why I was single was also due to living in major cities like DC & NYC, where the culture places career first, relationships 2nd or 3rd, and the pool of men were happy to stay single and unattached for as long as possible. I spent years working on myself trying to attract an amazing relationship - I had a lot of work to do, and I buckled down and did it. I think of this book as the final tipping point for me to develop into a person who can attract amazing relationships. This book is a bit of tough love, but it's so worth it because it pushes you to be honest with yourself about your behavior. It compares and contrasts two types of women - placeholders and game changers, and clearly shows what the behaviors are of these two types are. The book lays it out as simple as "Do This" or "Don't do This." If you read this book, and truly study it and make changes in your mindset and behavior, you will see results. I littlerally would read over certain chapter before going on dates and it was a huge help. As someone who has read almost every book under the sun about relationships & dating in addition to taking courses and working with private dating coaches, this book truly lays out the best content to make a real change and transformation in finding the love that you deserve.