Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away

Great book

A must-read for anyone who was ever in my position in relationships...knowing what deal-breakers can be worked on, and when its time to call it quits. Having been inexperienced with relationships for a long time, plus having weak boundaries, led me to question a lot...is it me, or is it him? You'll probably see something in here that resonates with you, whether its with a current partner, or one from your past.This book helped to clarify a lot of it. She goes through 5 different types of partners (Invisible Man, Little Boy posing as a man, the Man in Control, the Scriptwriter, and the Man without Fault), and deal-breaker scenarios for each one, along with real-life examples. At the end, she goes over what to do if you're stuck on a "merry-go-round", and most importantly, how to know if you're part of the problem, and how to fix it and work on yourself. Generally, she advocates communication and if nothing changes, then get out.Overall a good read! I enjoyed it and probably will be going back to it for reference in the future.

I didn't expect much from this book. I'm just beginning a separation from my husband and trying to navigate a lot of unknowns, including why my heart is hurting so much since it's my decision to leave. Although there are more pat-phrases and absolutes than I'm usually comfortable with (knitting circles are made up of angry man-hating cat-loving hags*), there were several insights that were so brilliant and spot-on that I highlighted them and read them out loud to my therapist. Wow. This book really helped me take a necessary step in a healthier direction. I'm so glad I read it.* paraphrased but not by much

I have been dealing with relationship that my intuition has been telling me walk away from for over 6 years but something always brought me back on this merry go round. This book truly gave me the strength I needed to finally walk away. The man I was seeing had qualities of what she called a script writer (and others but mainly this one) and I no longer felt crazy. It finally became clear to me he was scripting out this "person I am" and I was playing along with him to be that person without realizing it. I no longer felt like I was the crazy one plus I saw how I played a role in it. This book is a keeper. I need it for future reference into any other relationships I'm thinking of being part of. I'm so grateful for this book!

A must-read book for women in relationships. If there is something that doesn't seem right, it probably isn't. Don't let anyone dictate your happiness. A relationship is based on honesty and trust as well as compromise on both parts.