Real Men Don't Text: A New Approach to Dating

Wow oh wow. I've read my fair share of dating books and it's hard to find a Christian book that is not legalistic. One that truly gets to the heart of the matter. This is that book! Ruthie and her hubby address not only the surface issues but even more importantly why we allow this kind of behavior. This book is inspirational and will definitely give you a wake up all. You will see what type of behavior you are accepting and how you are feeding it. The authors do this without you feeling guilty however. This book poits to Jesus but I so believe that no believers will enjoy this as well. I recommended it to my coworker who doesn't know Jesus and I know she will be transformed by it. This book is written in love and I agree with much of what they are saying in a deep way. I know Jesus sees me this way and wants me to be treated like he treats me. This book inspired me to a dating fast -not treat the author tells you you have to but in prayer I realized that I was accepting a lot of this behavior and not focusing on letting Jesus change me. If we are focused on attracting the right guy and not beig he right girls it's a problem there. I loved that they saved their story to the end. That way it wasn't like so this like we did do this and this and voila you'll be married. No they graciously hate their story with enough detail and it inspired me. It's a book to keep around and to review every once in awhile. I also love that the author gives suggestions for responses to unacceptable behavior. If you've ever felt gutility about or confused about how to respond and redirect behavior then this is a great book. Definitely not promoting passivity but promoting assertiveness. Also didn't find this book at all condescending or sexist as one person wrote. What I felt the male voice was expressing is not trying to be one of the guys to be accepted. He didn't say anyyhig such as men can talk this way but women you must speak this way. That's how I took it anyway 😃 if you wanna check out another awesome Christian sTing book see "true love dates" by Debra Fileta

I always swore up and down that I'd never read a self-help dating book, yet I read this at the recommendation of my much more conservative, religious roommate. I'm agnostic, I fully support and respect anyone's (consensual) sex practices, and I'm not romantic in the slightest. So I'm not really in the perfect target demographic. But, my roommate gave it to me when I was in a tricky situation with a guy I was sort of dating. I thought I would hate this book and find it preachy, but I was desperate for some insight into this crummy situation I had gotten myself into.And a few times, I did find it preachy. But I quickly learned that Ruthie didn't always practice what she now preached, which was reassuring. It made me believe that I wasn't "in too deep." More than anything, the book is a self-confidence booster for any girl. Ruthie and Michael make us believe that we're all worthy of finding love, but their writing is relatable and honest and nonjudgmental.I'd recommend reading the whole thing, and taking it with a grain of salt. This book is sort of choose your own adventure, Ruthie and Michael aren't saying that their way is the only way to date. They don't expect you to do a 180 overnight, either. However, they do give some great perspective, and you can modify their suggestions to fit your life and values. The only reason I didn't give this 5 stars was because it got a little too religious for my taste at times. (Again, I'm agnostic and therefore have no buy in to the belief that you can pray for things, etc.)As corny as it sounds, this book gave me the courage to stand up for myself (to the aforementioned guy) and want more for myself. So for that, I'm grateful for this book, and even bought a copy of my own, to flip through when I need a shot of self-confidence.

The subject is interesting, particularly from both husband and wife authors.. However, the tone and insecurity/self critics of a female author going through her (and her friends) soul searching period for a good guy are sometimes expressed too dramatic to the point it almost ruins this self help book into a drama novel, a little depressing.. I had to skip several passages I couldn't stand although I completely agree how painful it is being in a one night stand or one sided relationship.. The tone of the male author sounds more objective and making lots of sense..One main take away is that guy who seems so cool, and mostly communicates through nonstop texting, usually don't make a good partner, his showing off his texting or sexting skills is a new and major red flag in digital era. Too many women think of this as fun pastime. Clearly the answer is no if your goal is a good lifetime partner. It is not just about a woman standard, but it also speaks volume to her intention. it's time for woman to clearly project her brand in pursuing a relationship: you just want to be a gf or a gf with an extension (wife) ? it's time to block out that Sex and the City influence, you can't get married or be married well if you choose to be a Samantha. it's time to pick your allies wisely, you can't please all of your girlfriends.This book contains tons of great advices but I think some of the chapters (by female author) are way too traumatic for a teenager/less experienced reader.

It's a game changer book, full of practical advice. Michael and Ruthie tell it like it is. Its good to get both the male and female perspectives.

Great book, thoroughly enjoyed reading it!