How We Die: Reflections on Life's Final Chapter, New Edition (National Book Award Winner)

This book is an invaluable guide to deciding on how to care for we love as they approach death, and to thinking about (and planning for) our own deaths. I first read it back in the 1980's, and found it both fascinating and frightening. Dr. Nuland illustrated very clearly that most of us are unlikely to go gentle into that good night, and discussed very movingly how that fact conditions the choices we will have to make . At the time, however, this did not seem terribly relevant to me -- I was, after all, just moving into middle age. . Now, however, I am over 70, and it is an extraordinarily relevant book. Last month, I reread it in the revised edition, as a dear friend for whom I have been responsible came to the end of her life. I only wish that I had read it earlier in this process. What Dr. Nuland said in the 1980's, and again in the 1990's, is still true. All too often, the American medical system still doesn't recognize that some illnesses cannot be cured. A dying patient may be subjected to procedure after procedure, and treatment after treatment, in a vain effort to avoid the inevitable. Hospice may not be called in until the very end, because the doctors and the patient and the patient's family are still focussed on treating the illness rather than the patient. The result is pain, discomfort and disorientation that might have been avoided. Had I realized just how entrenched this bias still is, I would have insisted that chemotherapy be cut off sooner than it was, and that my friend go on hospice sooner than she did. For the future, this book -- and my recent experience -- convince me that if I am diagnosed with a cancer that is likely to kill me, I will enlist a palliative care doctor on my medical team from the start. I only hope that I will find one with a fraction of Dr. Nuland's empathy and understanding.

The language is superb! Dr. Nuland writes about the scientific medical truths in such an artistic and beautiful language. I like the way he starts off a serious subject with such drama and fiction (so it seems); but then tapers it to the serious facts of life. He draws us from a fiction to nonfiction with interest and enthusiasm. He makes the facts of death so real and natural that it takes the fear of death out of us; it becomes quite acceptable. His language really is beautiful. The way death consumes each and every one of us, whether we are healthy or sick, is so fascinatingly put. He has explained how he saw his grandmother pass away; this has shed a lot of light on the facts about death for me. The analogy with which he described the cancer cell to young unruly adolescent has a touch of humor and at the same time describes the truth about the malignant cells. It is so beautifully written. For someone who is not a doctor or someone who is more a dreamer in the fiction world, this book (which is a nonfiction-medicine) is never boring from beginning to the end. He has caught my attention from the beginning to the end. His language captivated my attention; I have never read a nonfiction book with such enthusiasm and interest before. I am able to face the facts of death more logically now. This book was an excellent read. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to accept death as a natural phenomenon and to make peace with yourself and with your loved ones at the time of death.

"How We Die" comprises individual stories taken from a physician's close looks at and through the dying process. Especially enjoyable is that it described the illnesses and pathologies in layman but partly technical language. Much of the book's value was in the frank descriptions of the diseases. In an early chapter Dr. Nuland is still a third-year medical student taking a patient's history, when the patient suffers a severe cardiac event. The thriller begins -- Nuland steps through rapid-fire, inexperienced, yet probably good decisions, and immediately cuts through the breastbone. Holding the man's defibrillated heart in his hands, he tries to massage it back into sync. Nuland explains how a phone call from the patient's spoiled, college-age daughter had set off an effect on his constricted arteries, which, combined with his life-style choices (exercise, diet, substance-intake) genetics, and age, caused a breaking off of plaque, creating a blood clot (ischemia) and finally the heart's starvation of the blood's oxygen-carrying hemoglobin. Perhaps an unintended result was that I learned, in a socio-economic context, how 18th Century English society routinely allowed young, poor, meagerly-paid boys to be hired to climb inside of chimneys to clean them -- and about the horrific scrotum cancers and visceral diseases they contracted. The section on Alzheimer's Disease covers its physiological impact, level-by-level, and was an eye-opener for me. Nuland has been deeply touched by his experiences and conveys this well. This is an amazing look inside a physician's head, the sort of detached, frank, professionalism that lurks there, and the full panoply of empathy and human feeling. One chapter is on an AIDS patient's downward spiraling journey, mixed with a sort of chronology or history of HIV. This is a seven-page history of the discovery of AIDS, and related pharmacology and forensics. Reading San Francisco newspapers my whole life has kept me informed of this insidious disease's past so I would have actually appreciated an even more detailed accounting. Missing is a detailed accounting of the fascinating race in isolating the AIDS retrovirus between the CDC and Pasteur Institute in Paris. Along with his experiences, Nuland also expresses opinions and a philosophy revolving around his work, which also gives this book value. He presents both sides of the euthanasia issue, only going as far as to criticize a particularly questionable case. He talks about the value of the family doctor, death with dignity, death by "old age" (though a doctor never can write this on the death certificate, says Nuland), suicide, and euthanasia. It is on death itself where Nuland may be his most eloquent. This book is excellent as a gift to someone who's lost a loved one to the ravages of long-enduring, punishing, terminal diseases. Someone gave me a copy of this book after I'd lost my close grandfather to a debilitating suite of diseases. It was very soothing to read Nuland's book after his death. I plan to buy several more copies. Had this book been longer and more detailed I would have given it 4-1/2 or 5 stars, instead of 4.

great book to read!

I started reading this book when my grandmother passed away. This book has comforted me beyond words and has given a completely new and I will say necessary perspective to death. It not only helps with closure to whatever extent it is possible, but also prepares one for the future times where we will be taking life-death decisions either for ourselves or our loved ones.

A life-changer (or should I say death changer) for anyone that ever wondered how do we cease to exist. The truth is as blunt as blunt can be and keeps your death expectations at bay.

This delightful man is so very interesting in how he compiles words thoughts ideas brilliance intelligence together. The language is quite understandable, as I have just retired from a career in nursing. The most interesting, is how we come away with the concept that we must stop the death denying and death defying ways we have been so locked in to.

Me ha gustado como presenta la dura cuestión. Es muy constructivo.