Who's Pushing Your Buttons?: Handling the Difficult People in Your Life

This is like the sequel to "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" (which I HIGHLY recommend). It gives a much more indepth look at all the different types of people who have an extremely difficult time setting up their own boundaries as well as those who have no respect/ understanding of other's boundaries. It looks into the possible "whys" behind those peoples behavior and how to establish your own boundaries with people that are just extra difficult in respecting your boundaries. It's been extremely helpful in me and my family's journey to learn boundaries!

It's great when there are truths that challenge you to look not just at others but more importantly towards your own innerself.This book will help you potentially see the challenges in dealing with button pushers but more importantly look inside to see why you have buttons that can be pushed and be responsible for your ownself and be responsible towards others.It's a great book to have and read and apply.

VERY HELPFUL book. EASY TO READ. The description suggests that honesty, accountability, and self-reflection are secular ideas...the writer of that statement clearly does not know ancient Orthodox Christianity.

I now understand my button pusher better AND how to help us get through the problems. I would suggest it to anyone who is at a loss for how to handle a recurring issue with a hard person.

Lots of insights. A topic that will help a lot of people with button pushers who are driving them over the edge. Trustable. The author is a Christian psychologist. I only wish I had bought the traditional "book" version because I am a person who likes to scribble on the edges. I could have underlined and noted on every page. (I bought it for my kindle but I am still that "old school!"

I wasn’t sure if this book was needed as I had just put limits on a difficult person in my life. This book confirmed the steps I took were correct and gave me insight into how to deal with this person in the future. Read this if you care about the button pusher in your life and pray without ceasing.

Several reviewers mentioned already, there's a good chance that in reading this book, you'll discover that you're also a button pusher! I know I did. Wow, in many ways, I'm my own button pusher.Consequently, one of the main weaknesses of the book is that I didn't see a lot of info on what to DO when YOU are the button pusher. We all push somebody's buttons...how do I change that in myself?But the book is primarily about helping you develop tools and strategies for how to deal with your button pusher. There's a ton of really great stuff in here. I think there is a little too much emphasis on all YOU need to do to help ensure as much as possible that your person changes. For me personally, my goal is more to protect my own freedom in the relationship, protect my heart toward the person as much as possible, and affirm that person's freedom while not subjecting my happiness in life to their decisions. I'm sure my priorities would be somewhat different if my "person" was a more critical relationship, like my husband or children. But these persons of mine are still close, family relationships, and that's still where I'm landing at this point. I do feel more sane in my perceptions of the issue after reading this book...more grounded in the reality of what I'm facing instead of getting sucked into their version of reality (they're saying that it's my responsibility to handle the fallout of their problems, or that I'm really the only one with any real problems...I'm the family scapegoat). And I see more just how critical it is for me to have a solid support system through this, to give them freedom, even, to keep seeing it this way if they choose to, and to pour my energy and focus into my husband and children and other, healthier relationships instead.

This book provides very clear examples that help me move toward a more stable relationship with difficult people in my life. I truly appreciate the concept that consequences should fit the crime. I have already recommended this book to several friends.