Wife Magnet: Become the Husband She Can't Keep Her Hands Off

So many takeaways. Here's what I gleaned from this..“The moment you take responsibility for everything in your life, is the moment you can change anything in your life.”“My husband radar tells me something’s bothering you. I have a lot to do today, but it can all take a number and wait. Nothing is more important to me than you. I won’t try to fix anything … but tell me about your day. I want to hear what happened. I want to share this load with you.”Loving a woman is a journey of discovery. If you’re not willing to go deep with her, you had no business marrying her.She wants her husband to leave the shallows and go deep with her.Intimate and lasting marriages are forged when we anticipate the day-to-day needs of our wives and spring into action before we’re asked.By unloading the bags from her car she thinks “You’re my priority.”Know what items (to do) mean the most to your wife and do them daily for a month. This will turn her on.Ask:How fulfilled am I in our marriage?How would my wife answer that same question? When’s the last time I wrote a note telling her how much she means to me?Getting home in time for dinner is important to her. How did I do this week?What’s one thing I can do today to be a more loving and attentive husband?When’s the last time I surprised her with a night out or a romantic weekend getaway?What’s her biggest struggle right now?How can I come alongside her and show my support? Where are we “stuck” in our marriage?Who can I call for help?WIFE JOURNAL:What’s one thing about my wife I’m grateful for? I’m grateful for how patient and caring she is with our children. If you’re pissed-off at her right now and drawing a blank, try this instead: What first attracted me to her?I was captivated by her beautiful brown eyes. I could have looked into them all night. What’s one thing I can do today to be a better husband? This morning, before she gets up, I’ll clean the pots and pans soaking in the kitchen sink, and prepare a plate of fresh-cut fruit for her and the kids. What’s one thing I can do today to communicate my love and appreciation for her? I will email her during my lunch break to tell her how much better my life is with her in it. Every evening before bed, power down your screens and take a few minutes to reflect and answer these three questions: What did I learn today about myself or my wife? I think she’s been starving for this kind of attention and affection from me for a long time. It feels really good to see her happy. What’s one thing I could have done differently today? I could have called her from Trader Joe’s to see if there was anything she needed while I was there.What do I want to say to her before we fall asleep? “I want to have dinner with you this week … just the two of us … so I can stare into those beautiful brown eyes. How’s Friday night?”LIFE PERSERVER:First, draw up a list of your closest friends and allies. It doesn’t have to be long. It might be five deep. It might be seven. It might be ten. Next, narrow it down to two or three men by asking: Who’s the most competent? Who places a high value on his marriage? Who talks honestly about his faults? Who’s not afraid to challenge me? Who do I trust implicitly? Who am I comfortable sharing the most intimate details of my life with? Remember, two or three is plenty. This is your inner circle. This is your Peter, James, and John.Lastly, solicit their help. I recommend doing it face-to-face at a local tap house. Here’s a sample opening statement once pint glasses are comfortably in hand: “Guys, I’ve got a favor to ask, but before I do, let me say this: I’ve had a mediocre marriage for a long time. I’ve been a mediocre husband for a long time. And that’s the flattering version. I’m a superstar at work, but I’m Rip Van Winkle at home, sleeping through most of my married life. Distracted. Self-absorbed. Rarely present. My wife wanted a soulmate — instead she got a roommate. “You can probably tell by the way I’m talking that my long nap is over, thanks to a book that woke me up and pointed me in the right direction. But I’m not stupid … I know building a great marriage isn’t easy. We’ve still got some work to do. And I know myself. There will be times when my buttons get pushed, I get offended, and go total butthead on her. That’s where you guys come in: I need you to be my safety net. My search and rescue team in case I go AWOL. “I want my wife to have the security of knowing there are men she can call on when we’re at each other’s throats, when our marriage is in a tailspin. She can pick up the phone and say, ‘Help! We’re hurting! My husband is in a funk, and I can’t get through to him. He needs his bros right now. Will you reach out to him?' “I’m giving her your email addresses and cell phone numbers. I’m gonna tell her I’ve spoken to you guys, and she has my permission to contact you and disclose whatever she wants. Nothing is out of bounds — how I spend our money, what I say behind close

I really enjoyed his book Better Man Better marriage. I am half way through this book and considering not finishing it. The book previously published as “The Sex starved husbands guide” and that’s what this book implies at the end of the chapters. It feels like a good start to learning what it is to be a husband but falls short when it implies the end game agenda is about sex. You can get sex anywhere, love and intimacy is found in a secure relationship. So is it really surface level sex you want as often as you can get it, acting like a boy? Or do you want something more fulfilling, as a man? A secure relationship comes by doing the right thing simply because of character and values not because of a hopeful paycheck of sex from your wife as often as you can get it. Again, his other book is one I want to hand out to the men I know that are struggling in relationships. If you do read and learn from this book please learn that love, your actions of service, are a free gift with no strings attached. If you’re gonna need sex to make it worth while for you to be a husband don’t bother, your wife will feel your intentions from a mile away. Let’s stick to the golden rule and treat others as we want to be treated. I think he covered everything far better in his other book.

Amazing book! Quick story. After I read the book, I cleaned the house, did the dishes, picked up the kids, and picked up groceries. I told my wife to just go home and take a bath or nap or whatever she wants. She said she has never had so much free time and didn’t know what to do. I said do whatever you want hun. I run a business so I’m pretty busy but it felt great to do all these things for her knowing how much it meant to her. Upon my arrival at home she was in the best mood, didn’t nag or have a negative tone. I played with the kids and helped do whatever she wanted instead of kicking back in my recliner. She was baking a cake for our son’s 4th birthday tomorrow and needed more cake batter so I said I’m going to go get it. I learned quickly volunteering and not being asked or offering goes a long way. Later that evening I bathed the kids and put them to bed. Then I said hey instead of watching tv you wanna lay on the couch and cuddle? She lit up. Lying on the couch she had tears in her eyes and said today was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for her and was better than anything I could ever buy her. The best part is I absolutely enjoyed doing it, like the book says invest time and effort and you’ll grow fonder and closer. Here’s where I couldn’t believe my ears. She said ya know today when I was home alone and I had nothing to do because the house was clean, dishes done, kids being picked up from daycare etc, I was so turned on! I couldn’t help but smile and think man Jeff was absolutely right! No Messes, no stresses, no guesses! I told her I did not do any of this for sex and I would honestly rather stay here and talk. There was no stopping her, she took me in the bedroom full of passion and I could tell she wanted me badly, that component has been absent lately. We had the best sex in over 2 and a half years. I was worried once it was over my interest in treating her like a princess might fade but it only grew. I’m shocked at the turn around in less than 24hrs. It’s only going to get better too as I keep with it she’ll realize more and more I’m her hero and this new me isn’t going anywhere. This book shows us knucklehead men woman are actually pretty easy to understand. If you have come this far to read this then ORDER THE BOOK!

This writer is easy to read. Writes to be understood. Speaks from experience. Had this book been available 5 years ago, I would still be married to the love of my life!!!!

I read the first 30-40 pages and then went on You Tube to see if the author had any articles there , I was interested to see any comments viewers may have added and wanted to leave one myself.As I read through this book and noted recommendations that would warm your wife’s heart and make her feel closer to you such as, paying the life insurance on time, paying the bills, scratching your wife’s back 2 minutes every night, erm well I pay every single household bill and my partner doesn’t have to work. If I scratched her back or offered a massage I would be refused, one idea in the book was be thoughtful, if she has been food shopping rush out to the car and help her carry all those bags in! Well my partner won’t go food shopping without me no matter how busy I may be with other things so I always carry everything. It would seem I do everything above and beyond the authors suggestions. So very little in this book I believe will make one iota difference to your relationship!

This is the best book I have read in a long time, and I read excellent books every week. Let the fact that this is my first reference I write about a book serve as a true testimony how powerful I find it. The book must be read by anybody who has ever wanted or is in a relationship. Jeff sees through to the woman's soul. There is no longer any mystery about what women want. Or actually need. It's all there - black on white. As a foreigner, I found it at times a bit difficult to catch his references but the message was loud an clear nonetheless. Read it. Simply read it.

The earlier parts of this book worked for me. There were enough gems and insight to justify the rating I gave it. Some of the middle and later chapters were filled with enough stereotypes and wussizms to cringe a bit, but not enough to not really say the book was good. It was and has made a difference.Many times the book feels a bit one-sided in that the author shoulders most of the marriage responsibility on the part of the male and little about the partnership that marriage is. I feel also that women are stereotyped in many ways in this book, whereas in real life women are as varied as men are. It's not a cookie-cutter world.I'd say read it like an intelligent self-aware person and reflect on the tips that apply to you.

A miscellaneous of useful and not so useful tips. For sure you can get good things from it if you take the time to ponder about their applicability in your situation. The author's own experiences sometimes justifies some conclusions that are definitely not going to work for everyone.

If you shied away before from marriage advice or exploring feelings, pick up THIS book now. You know you need it. She doesn't smile at you the same any more. You get a little frustrated. You joke with the guys about how difficult to understand women are -or worse (all nagging B&$@tches!!)" My hunch is that is precisely why Jeff wrote this book. To give you a hand up, saying it like it is, and breathing new hope and doable strategies into you.