Dom's Guide To Submissive Training: Step-by-step Blueprint On How To Train Your New Sub. A Must Read For Any Dom/Master In A BDSM Relationship (Men's Guide to BDSM) Paperback – November 22, 2013

This series is probably the best available for those new to BDSM and especially D/s. I recommend both D's and submissives to read the entire series. Not only are details given but some very good advice and insight as well. You will likely want to get some other books concerning techniques, toys or even more in depth books about the psychology of the power exchange and Dominance or submission. But especially for someone new to it all, this series will really explain things well. You will have a good understanding about BDSM and this series will help you get started in a safe and sane way. Many people have very incorrect ideas and assumptions about BDSM which leads them to disappointment or pains that are not enjoyable, mentally and physically. This series will help you avoid those unfortunate aspects which we will likely come across in the kink world. I can not think of how to express all that I would like to right now, but I am really quite impressed with this series. My prior background was only in on line environments. I thought I learned quite a lot on line, but these books have helped a lot more, I wish I found them a couple years ago. You won't be disappointed.

While this is a subject many people may show interest in on the rising popularity of "50 Shades of Grey", this book is NOT a 'movie plot/scene play' guide book for dilettantes or wannabe "Mr. Grey"s seeking to play-act. Ms. Cramer's book is NOT a 'quick' read, it requires thought and some familiarity with the BDSM lifestyle. She explains how (male/female) Dominants should approach training their subs in a responsible, non-abusive, respectful manner consistent with accepted and proven BDSM 'protocols' without giving overly prescriptive, "one size fits all", advice or directions. This is NOT a "Submissive Training for Dummies" book despite the "step-by-step" moniker in the book's title..Any D/s relationship will have its own unique dynamics, the evolution of those dynamics which touched upon in this book are not its' focus. If you're seeking advice on relationship dynamics, such as TPE (Total Power Exchange) or how to handle other D/s relationship issues I recommend you take a look at the books by Michael Makai (The Warrior Princess Submissive) available here on Amazon. This book neither encourages or discourages BDSM lifestyle choices.This book does presume the Dominant and the Sub have mutually agreed and have both acknowledged their desires to enter into a sustainable, enjoyable D/s relationship fully informed of their separate identities,and roles and are ready to accept their mutual duties, responsibilities to such a relationship.This book will NOT 'rescue' either the Dominant or the Submissive from training mistakes or missteps already made; it will NOT answer fundamental 'how to choose a Dom/Sub' questions. It will offer intelligent and practical advice to D/s couples in a variety of circumstances - live-in, long-distance, occasional scene play. The advice is applicable to Dominants and Submissives (D/s) of BOTH genders - M/M, F/F, F/M, and M/F combinations.Submissive's seeking to to use the book to "educate" their Dominants or to take their D/s relationship to a higher level of commitment and formality should first read Michael Makai's other book, also on Amazon, "62Q: Sixty-two Questions For Your Dominant". Mr. Makai's book offers a set of questions specific to training which would be more appropriate and could offer the Sub a better way to 'send the message' this book offers about submissive training.After reading this book, I strongly recommend reading the second and third books in this series by the same author (also available on Amazon): "Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be A Submissive. A Must Read For Any Woman In A BDSM Relationship (Women's Guide to BDSM) " and the " Dom's Guide To Submissive Training: Step-by-step Blueprint On How To Train Your New Sub. A Must Read For Any Dom/Master In A BDSM Relationship (Men's Guide to BDSM) (Volume 1) " Unfortunately, these books do have a 'gender bias' which is regrettable​. Yet the advice is still useful.

I am so glad that I took the time to read this book before I began my journey into the BDSM world. I learned so many great things from it. The book is set up to make sure you get the most from it and gives clear and descriptive instructions on how to make the relationship work the best it can. Simple little things that I would not have thought of are explained with their uses and benefits very well illustrated. I would not have thought to have a contract or two different collars with one for training and one for the actual relationship.The book covers every part of training necessary to ensure that your relationship is successful. I really enjoyed how well the need for trust and education was explained. It's not enough to just jump into a BDSM relationship. To be the best experience for you both, it is necessary to have a well thought out plan in place. Each of the different areas that you will find yourself in, are well documented and explained in each of the easy to read chapters. I am really looking forward to continuing my exploration of this exciting area now that I have read this book.

Very informational. Lots of good information but I dont agree with it all. My sub loves spanking. She was grinning ear to ear as I described what the author suggests. I know of other schools, such as the crow academy, that do not use corporal punishment for this exact reason. I did get a lot of good ideas and information but we will not be following all of her advice. That being said the advice was a good starting point that needs modification but it's worth the purchase.As for the physical book itself. Well its not worth the money. The book has roughly 70 pages. Thats 35 pieces of paper. Seven pages fell out just turning the page. That's 20% of the book that fell out on the first read. The binding is garbage on a book that covers bondage. The irony was not lost.

Excellent advice for those new to the exciting D/S scene. Nice refresher for those with more experience as well. Always smart to be open to learning and considering how to spice/step up your play or tighten up your responsibility to each other as a Master or Dom or desire to provide service as a submissive or slave. Your goals should always be positive growth and dynamic learning. Always strive to be better for your partner.For those less experienced Amazon reviewers that erroneously believe this book suggests abuse or breaking a person, I can tell that you do not understand this lifestyle. WE in this lifestyle all insist on Consensual agreements and discussions first before we trust and resulting play afterwards. Our most basic screening process is 100 time better than most non-BDSM relationships. The intensity of our relationships and experiences are very hard to comprehend if your experience has been vanilla.